I’m relatively new to the female orgasm denial scene. Usually when I talk to or see my LD Dom he has me edge for him but eventually lets me have an orgasm. Last week he said he doesn’t want to focus on my clit or orgasms as he prefers me denied and focused on him. He wants me to really concentrate on the feelings of pleasing him with my throat and ass – we’re ao so I don’t need to worry about anything specifically in my vagina. We’ve discussed clit numbing but so far what I’ve tried didn’t numb me at all. I purchased the store brand of orajel and 4% lidocaine cream, and I felt like I used quite a lot of them. I think part of the problem is that there is a lot of sensation under my clitoral hood that I can’t quite reach with the creams. I’ve been thinking about getting a male desensitizing spray to see if that penetrates far enough. Any other thoughts?Clit punishment is also on the table, but that still allows me to focus on my clit which we’d rather not do. Plus we’ve tried tiger balm, ginger, ice, and icy hot (not all at the same time) and I came so insanely hard when he let me after edging with those on. Clit spankings and clothes pins are things we also already use, but overall I’m a pain slut and really love/hate those sensations.Thanks for any suggestions and recommendations you all might have. female orgasm denial Get your own Orgasm Control toys: For men: http://www.amzn.to/1V6XQvv For women: https://ift.tt/1UWn54n