Pretty new to denial, advice pls?

Hi all! First post, pls be nice ❤️ (F23)I’ve been edging myself as long as I can remember, and the idea of orgasm denial is very hot but like many people have said, it’s hard to do by yourself. But! I’ve been dating a guy for a while now, and we’ve been talking about (short term) denial. We’re doing ldr, with visits once a month or so. So far, I’ve asked for it to be a rule that when we sext, I don’t cum until after he does. We’ve been doing that for a while and it’s great ☺️ Lately we’ve done that in person too, but it’s more flexible. I can come a crazy amount of times, (I think 50 in 2 hours was about the highest I’ve done so far), so limiting the orgasms I get to have is still hot. I like asking if I can come and hearing him say “not yet” 🥰Additionally, we’ve been trying out short stretches of denial in the days leading up to the visit. Last time it was three days, this time it looks like it’ll be 4-5. I technically started last night, but I had an accidental ruin with my morning edge and felt super bad about it. Like, got close, stopped all stimulation, tried to will it away, couldn’t stop it ☹️I really want to hold off until I’m with him, and I also want to edge so I’ll be nice and desperate for him when he gets here, but I’m afraid of either a) losing the whole day to edging and not doing regular stuff I’m supposed to do, or b) accidentally getting too close and coming.I have a gut feeling that there should be a consequence for not following through with what I said I’d do, like with the ruin today. The last time I talked with him, my boyfriend was not into doing any kind of punishment, and I respect that. He’s a lot more vanilla than me, and hasn’t been as sexually active in the past as I have, and I appreciate that he’s put in so much effort to communicate with me about what I want out of this kind of thing. I’m really submissive, and he’s been great to me. He’s not into strict rules or control though, and I kinda want that sometimes. I’d like to be told to edge at certain times, or told that I can edge whenever, but I can only cum when I’m sexting him (or in person).Does anyone have experience navigating an orgasm denial kink with a wonderful partner that is willing to do some of the stuff with you, but basically just does it because they love you, not because it’s an inherent kink of theirs? Where is the line between asking for what you want and asking for something they won’t/can’t give you?Thanks all ❤️ female orgasm denial Get your own Orgasm Control toys: For men: http://www.amzn.to/1V6XQvv For women: https://ift.tt/1UWn54n